I think the “women are mysterious” thing can also come from:
1) Women actually being quite clear, but not telling men what they want to hear. ”She said she doesn’t want to talk to me? So many mixed messages and confusing signals!”
2) Women not having cheat codes. ”I tried being nice, and she didn’t have sex with me. I tried being an asshole, and she didn’t have sex with me. Come on, there’s got to be some kind of solution to this puzzle!”
3) Women not being a hive mind. ”First a woman told me that she likes guys with big muscles. Then the very next day a woman told me she thinks muscles aren’t attractive at all. Make up your mind, women!”
4) An individual woman doing something confusing, and instead of asking “why is she doing this now?” men ask “why do women always do this?”
I think the idea is not that “women are mysterious” so much as “I can’t be bothered to get to know the women around me like I’d get to know the men around me, so I’ve never bothered to find out that women’s brains work pretty much the same as men’s, individually. I keep wanting to pop them off their necks and peer into the hole to see what’s inside there rather than, you know, talk with them.”
Throwback Thursday? How about to the time in our lives we enjoyed wearing oversized Gold’s Gym sweatshirts even though we had never been to a Gold’s Gym? How about Tegan’s half cast? Or the pleather on the front of my Jeanshorts? Bangs and a ponytail? When people claim the 90s had cool fashion I remember this look and I think: NO.
Sara, this is a personal question. Feel free not to answer it. Would you date you? Me. Would you date Sara? As Sara would you date yourself? If that was legal. Or possible.
Ding. Yes, she would.
You know, I think of myself as being quite suffocating and intense, and I don't have time for that kind of energy in my life. And it's like, 'Get your intensity and your suffocating energy off of me.' And so if that's how I was with me, I don't think we would last for very long. . . But I think I'm terrific, too. So, I mean, I don't know if I could resist me.